Who is an extrovert: a hyperactive person or a genius of communication?

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The extrovert is a very active person. People believe this quality helps them in all areas. But do extroverts always feel good about themselves? Do they have disadvantages that prevent them from being happy?

The life of an extrovert is not always fun and carefree. Sometimes they suffer from their shortcomings and can’t achieve desired results for a long time. What qualities belong to this psychotype? How do you build a relationship with such a person? And is it possible to increase one’s own tendency towards extraversion?

Who is an extrovert?

An extrovert is a restless person who cannot sit still. They are dependent on external relations and oriented in contact with the outside world. Unlike introverts, extroverts avoid being in solitude because:

Take this quiz to find out if you are introvert or extrovert.

Typical characteristics of extroverts:

Outwardly, an extrovert is a person with active facial expression and gestures, jerky movements and loud speech. They walk quickly, eat quickly and dress quickly. At the same time, it seems that their energy is not only conserved but even multiplied. The situation in supermarkets is a great example. A typical extrovert is a person who:

The main fears of the extrovert personality are solitude and routine. They can’t live without attention and love it when everyone talks about them. If no one notices them (that is almost impossible), they may resort to taking actions — good or bad — to draw attention their way. Something is constantly changing in the extrovert’s life — appearance, atmosphere, work, hobby, or the people who surround them. If an extrovert has something that remains unchanged for a long time, they start to feel sad and depressed. Typical characteristics of extroverts:

Extroverts are innovators and they are not afraid of change. They are thrive on and actively seek it. They quickly generate ideas —  half of which are completely beyond the laws of physics and logic. However, it does not stop these people from trying to turn their plans into reality. The most interesting thing is that they often succeed. Just because they go ahead and stop at nothing.

Extroverts’ disadvantages

Rashness

They rarely think about the consequences of their actions. Even in serious situations, extroverts prefer to skip the stage of deliberation. They live for the moment and do not make plans for the future. They seize every opportunity to take action.

The reasons for such behavior are:

This trait often leads the extrovert into trouble. Since they have a gambling personality, they can lose a large amount of money, develop an addiction, get involved in a fight or cause themselves harm. An extrovert who has achieved a lot and then lost everything in just a second is a relatively common situation.

Poor self-control

Anger, joy, jealousy, frustration and other extrovert emotions are never faintly expressed or go unnoticed. If they hurt, they will cry bitterly. If they are offended, they will smash everything around. If they win the lottery, they’ll cry themselves hoarse. Extroverts are obviously bad poker players.

An extrovert personality, while experiencing a strong emotion, does not think about others. Feeling angry, they can break someone else’s belongings. Feeling joyful, they will start hugging a passerby who might not like it. While grieving, they will listen to sad songs loudly, preventing their neighbors from resting or sleeping.

Changeability

If an extrovert were an animal, they would definitely be a chameleon. The only difference is that the reptile changes color. The extrovert’s instability can turn into unreliability, frivolity and complete lack of self-awareness. It seems that they are constantly in search of:

This spoils their relationships with others, causes distrust. Even the extrovert, despite all the changes and noise, sometimes feels lonely.

Extroverts’ advantages

Good communication skills

Extroverts are not afraid to take the first steps, to be leaders and initiators. They can find an approach literally to any person. They start to speak, and everyone around agrees with them, at least because it is impossible to out-argue them. Their zeal and enthusiasm fascinate the interlocutors.

Even if an extrovert does not have serious arguments, they still somehow manage to prove something, even falsehoods. People admire them because when they speak with such passion and light in their eyes, everyone reflexively wants to smile.

Great adaptation

If the extrovert somehow loses their job, house and dog and ends up on an uninhabited island, they will still adapt perfectly.

It is people with an extraverted psychotype who first go to the newly-opened restaurants. They can go on a spontaneous journey with a minimum amount of money. Only extroverts are happy if a crowded elevator gets stuck. Sure thing! After all, this is an excellent opportunity to meet new people and talk!

This quality helps the extroverts to get out of trouble and rebuild their lives under any conditions.

Resoluteness

Despite their rashness, extraverted individuals never suffer from the “what if …?” complex. They may regret their actions from the past, but they don’t get upset because they haven’t tried something.

Yes, such people may get into trouble more often, but they are usually more fortunate, ready for whatever comes, not lost in unforeseen situations. The risk is a common and natural thing for them, so they get more substantial rewards for it.

Cheerfulness

Sometimes an extrovert is sad, offended, suffers self-doubt or feels guilty. However, they still love life. The following qualities help them:

If the extrovert is quiet and inactive for a long period of time, often grumbles, always gets angry, and calls life unfair, most likely they have had a deep emotional trauma and need help. It does not have to be a psychotherapist. It is possible for an extrovert’s close friend to help them work through the situation.

Extraversion and temperament

Phlegmatics and melancholics among extroverts are extremely rare. And even if they are, they are probably mixed with a sanguine or choleric type of temperament, with the sanquine and choleric traits being clearly dominant.

Sanguine extroverts

These are the most good-natured people, unselfish philanthropists and altruists. They intuitively feel when they have to be near their loved ones and encourage them and make them smile. There are some more typical features:

However, do not think that the sanguine extrovert is a harmless Bambi fawn, whom anyone can hurt. They are quite able to stand up for themselves and fight back. However, to annoy them, you have to make a lot of effort. Sanguine will try to settle everything peacefully.

Choleric extroverts

A choleric extrovert is a bull in the arena. And anyone who disagrees with them or reproaches or insults them is waving a red rag. They are easily aroused and can make a scene over the slightest issue. In fact, they also can openly and vividly express their joy, gratitude and respect.

Additionally, the choleric extrovert:

These are the most passionate personalities who require a lot of attention. As a rule, their goals are grand and ambitious. If choleric extroverts think their friends do not have enough warm hats, then they buy them more. And, not only hats, but also gloves, scarves and socks,  along with thermal underwear.

The extrovert child

Studying

Единственный школьный предмет, по которому успевают все малыши этого психотипа — физкультура. В остальном все зависит от учителя. Если педагог будет больше времени уделять практике, чем теории, часто менять типы заданий, то ребенок с большой вероятностью полюбит его предмет. И наоборот: чем больше монотонности и теории в курсе, тем хуже успеваемость экстраверта.

The only school subject in which all children of this psychotype excel in is physical education. Everything else depends on the teacher. If the instructor will devote more time to practice than theory, often changing the types of tasks, then the child is more likely to fall in love with the subject. And vice versa: the more monotonous and theory-based the course is, the worse the study progress of an extrovert student.

A teacher’s personality and skills are important, too. If the educator is passionate about their subject and knows how to cause excitement, the little extrovert will adore them and study hard.

As a rule, extraverted children are mediocre students because it is difficult for them to sit in one place for a long time and maintain concentration.

Friendship

An extraverted child is a popular person with a wide circle of acquaintances. They take a leadership position with friends. If a group of children decided to pull a prank, then it was an extrovert who enticed them to do it.

Usually, the extrovert child is not worried about quarrels with friends and easily replaces them with new ones. They rarely maintain friendships with classmates after graduation.

Dangers

  1. Extrovert children try to pay attention to everyone. Because of this, the quality of their friendships sometimes suffer. Therefore, they can feel lonely even when surrounded by hundreds of people.
  2. The excitement and restlessness often lead an extrovert child into trouble. If the child is hyperactive, it’s better to involve them in structured activities and allow them to release their energy there.
  3. These children are very dependent on the acceptance of others. If they get involved with the “wrong crowd,” they can get involved in illegal activities or harm themselves or others.

The extravert’s career

The ideal profession for an extrovert is a “person-to-person” job, for example, a teacher, instructor, doctor, administrator or lawyer. Extroverts rarely choose the types of “human-sign system” and «human-technics» jobs because of the need to work independently and separately from others.

Due to their resourcefulness and eloquence, the extrovert moves quickly up the career ladder. And, this is logical because they are not afraid to:

Monotonous work requiring attention to detail quickly drains the energy of the extrovert. They becomes sluggish and their performance declines.

Extroverts and relationships

Extroverts have a paradox. They do not appreciate their many connections, although they really need them. It’s hard for them to focus on one person. They can get divorced several times and then get married again. And they will be piously sure that this time exactly everything will work out.

However, if the extrovert finds the right person, they do not let them go, no matter what. Their “special” partner easily notices that the extrovert becomes “the one.”

The extraverted personality begins to:

The extrovert’s jealousy might be dangerous. It can end in scandals, threats, property damage and even physical abuse. Fortunately, these “red flags” emerge during the first days of dating. Fortunately, the number of aggressive extroverts isn’t great.

If your partner is an extrovert, you will have to be ready for an avalanche of attention and they will wait for it to be returned.

Extrovert and introvert

When a dog first meets a hedgehog, it tries to sniff it, then gently touch it. Then the dog stares at the hedgehog for another 10 minutes with a blank expression.

Funny, but the extrovert reacts to the introvert in the same way. They do not understand this clamped closed being. However, curiosity wins, and they try to learn more about “the hedgehog” and to make friends with them.

The extraverted person will try to put the introvert at ease and make them more active. It is unlikely to succeed. But having learned to respect the privacy of their quiet friend, the extrovert will create a very strong bond with them.

The “extrovert-extrovert” relationship is an explosive mixture. Such a couple or friends can be happy together, but only as long as their adventures last. If they stop even for a minute, the problems begin. The most common relationship problem is the struggle for leadership.

How to communicate with extroverts

How to stay in a good relationship with an extrovert:

How to become an extrovert

Unlike the character, the psychotype and temperament are formed at the physiological level. This means that they cannot be changed. However, each person is a mixture of extraversion and introversion. Even if you are a 90% introvert (which is rare), you can always develop the remaining 10%. How to do it:

If among friends, there is an extrovert, you will not be bored. They will charge you with energy and try to cheer everyone up. However, despite their outward unconcern, they may suffer from serious problems. An extraverted personality, like no other, needs reliable friends — their support and loyalty. That is why such people are often friends with introverts.

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